Solitude
Developing a rhythm to renew one's soul and mind
Practicing the Way: Solitude
Pastor Matt Messner, New Life Church
January 25, 2026
Key Theme: We become like the people we spend time with. Transformation happens through relationship, not just instruction. Jesus modeled a rhythm of retreat and return—withdrawing to quiet places to be with the Father, then returning to love and serve others.
Opening Reflection
• Share a skill, value, or habit you learned more by watching or being with someone than by being taught.
• Who have been the most influential people in shaping who you are today?
Scripture Focus
• Mark 1:35–39
• Luke 5:16
• Mark 6:30–46
• Romans 12:2
Core Teaching Summary
• The goal of discipleship is to be like Jesus and do what Jesus did.
• Solitude is intentional, chosen time with God—not isolation.
• Jesus practiced solitude consistently, especially under pressure.
• Our culture’s noise and distraction work against spiritual formation.
• Solitude is subtraction, creating space for God’s presence.
Group Discussion Questions
1. Why did Jesus prioritize solitude even when people urgently needed Him?
2. What cultural patterns most disrupt your attentiveness to God?
3. How does solitude help us receive God’s love?
4. Why is solitude different from isolation?
5. What surfaces in you when you are quiet and alone?
Personal Reflection
• Where do noise and distraction dominate your life?
• When was the last time you withdrew to be alone with God?
• Do you view solitude as selfish or necessary?
Prayer or reflection:
Weekly Practice Card: Rhythm of Retreat & Return
This week, practice a simple, sustainable rhythm of solitude.
RETREAT (With God)
• When: __________________________
• Where (your quiet place): __________________________
• Duration: 5–20 minutes
• What I will do: Silence, prayer, Scripture, journaling
RETURN (To Others)
• How will this time shape the way I love, listen, or serve others this week?
________________________________________________
RULE-OF-LIFE COMMITMENT (Circle one):
Daily | 3x per week | Weekly extended time
Digital Boundary for the Week:
• One notification, app, or device habit I will limit or remove:
________________________________________________
Closing Encouragement
“You’re not getting away from the world—you’re getting away with God.”
“Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” — Mark 6:31